That kind of man.

In a brief conversation, a woman asked a man she was pursuing the question:

"What kind of man do you want to be?"

He sat quietly for a moment before looking her in the eye and asking, "Do you really want to know?"

Reluctantly, she said, "Yes."

He began to expound:

"As a man in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a woman what can I do for you that you cannot do for yourself?

I can pay the bills. I take care of the household without the help of any woman.... or man for that matter.

I am in the position to ask, "What else can I bring to the table?"

The woman looked at him. Clearly she thought that he was referring to money.

He quickly corrected her thought and stated, "I am not referring to money. I need something more."

"I need to be a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life."

She sat back in her chair, folded her arms, and asked him to explain.

He said:

"I need to be someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I cannot be a simple-minded man.

I need to be someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked. Believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster.

I need to be a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don't need a financial burden.

I need to be someone who is sensitive enough to understand what a woman go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep her grounded.

I need to be someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game playing are not my idea of a strong man.

I need to be a man who is family-oriented. The one who can be the leader and provider to the lives entrusted to me by God.

I need to be someone who respects his woman. In order to be the leader, I must earn her respect.

I cannot be a leader to a woman who does not respect me.

I have no problem respecting a woman, she just has to be worthy.

And by the way, I am not looking for her. She will find me. She will recognize herself in me. She may not be able to explain the connection, but she will always be drawn to me. God made man to be a leader for woman. I can't guide a woman if I can't guide myself."

When he finished his spill, he looked at her.

She sat there with a puzzled look on her face.

She said, "You expect a lot."

He replied, "I'm worth a lot."


Then he asked her, "Now, what kind of woman do you want to be?"


Dem yuh!