RESET:GENERATION

New things allow us to achieve greatness.

Now tell me if anything is impossible?

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Demmmmmm!!!

Rediscover purpose

This is somehow unplanned. I am in the middle of a really hectic schedule, and this week especially is the most intense week for me. Everything I have been doing since January this year, will come to the climax; a project I am involved since day one in 2008: Eco Film Fest.

Last night I was at the Green Drinks event at The Apartment KLCC, a last-Tuesday-of-the-month event where budding environmental-conscious people gather to, drink. In fact, we (the Team) were lucky to be given a slot to to promote our final EFF2011.

After the event started we got out to KLCC to find something less overpriced to eat. Half an hour after that we walked back to the event. Just in front of the Apartment entrance, I bumped into an old friend (if I'm considered a friend), my former schoolmate. I remembered I saw her status update in some social media platform a while ago when she just got married and everyone was congratulating her and stuff. She was with her husband, and my, she's pregnant. We chatted for couple of minutes and she asked me, "do you still work for the motorsports-thingy stuff?" and I answered, "no, I'm now doing environmental education stuff. Close to four years now." A moment later we made our own way.

The highlight of the story was not meeting an old friend, but rather the fact that I have been doing environmental work for four years. I came a long way; volunteer, part time, executive, and now, the Programme Manager.

And for so long I have done a stretch of things, extending beyond just environment. I write for my blog, I learn music, I lecture, I travel, I play, I party, I everything, in the name of self-development.

However after a while, I got too attached to my works, slowly sunken in the delusional fact that the only reason we all work is for money. Nothing is working without money. My self-development went down the gutter.

And funny, just now, in fact this past month, I've been getting few comments by people I know and I don't: We don't see your writing anymore.

God, a hobby I explored out of realising how crucial it is for my future benefit, was left noticed. Last time I felt like I have the need, the responsibility to write, but now, down the gutter.

It also made me realised how I missed writing; a simple, cheap fun to entertain myself and sometimes, for better or worse, I entertained (or annoyed) others. A hobby which I used to spend seriously to develop and train my honest opinions and thinking process which involves 90% of the time pure bullcrap. Craps take a lot of effort too.

Maybe I was caught in the heat of the moment. We grow older, our drive, our strength, our youthful charm, declining while on the contrary, the world demands more from us; more work, more money, more products.

So is this all worthwhile? The chase for money - something imaginary and feel so damn real?

It made me think that what I need to do is to think of what made me feel happy, what I feel good about, without compromising my commitments and responsibilities. I need to rediscover the purpose of life, my life.

So what I'll do is, I'll start to write again. Or at least pay more attention to my belongings.

Allow me to welcome myself back.


Dem yuh!

Success vs Failure

"Success comes to those who are not afraid to fail." - Benny Gold

I wonder how many people like to talk about failure. Or comfortable discussing it. Or rather, admit that once (or more), they too faced it. It is a jinx. Like what "Laws of Attraction" or even the 'great' Paulo Coelho must have brainwashed you, you never speak of negativity, or "the universe shall conspire and helping you to achieve it," in this case, FAILURE.

Imagine if you don't feel too good about yourself physically, you go to a physician, and run some tests, and see what's wrong with your physical. And then the expert says, "you have a flu." Then what would you do or say, "That's impossible doc, I never asked for it." Deny it?

Who ever ask to fall sick? Who ever ask to get injured? Who EVER ask to face failure?

The thing about failure is, it will always come to you. You will keep bumping on it. Whether you like it or not, more dramatically whether you're prepared, or not. Failure is natural. It's like a preset system that comes to you when your system runs in a strange way. It's an indicator that you need to run your system differently, or fix it. It is natural. It keeps the balance. It keeps the yin and yang.

The secret to success, is, to discuss failure; to admit, to examine, to recover, and to improve.

Just remember, there's around 7 billion people in this world, and every one of them have been through failure(s), even the most successful person must have gone through failures.

Some people believe that if you get "F" for your exam, you failed, but some sets a high standard that a mere "A-" is a failure. I'm sure even Bill Gates can't play basketball like I do. So is he a failure? To me he is. But is basketball important to him? Certainly not. It's about what is important and what is not.

"Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts." - Winston Churchill

Life is unexpected, regardless of the span. So get go, do what you do, find a reason to love it, keep doing it. Failure is the four corners of your wall, but fuck it. Smash it.



Dem yuh!

That kind of man.

In a brief conversation, a woman asked a man she was pursuing the question:

"What kind of man do you want to be?"

He sat quietly for a moment before looking her in the eye and asking, "Do you really want to know?"

Reluctantly, she said, "Yes."

He began to expound:

"As a man in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a woman what can I do for you that you cannot do for yourself?

I can pay the bills. I take care of the household without the help of any woman.... or man for that matter.

I am in the position to ask, "What else can I bring to the table?"

The woman looked at him. Clearly she thought that he was referring to money.

He quickly corrected her thought and stated, "I am not referring to money. I need something more."

"I need to be a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life."

She sat back in her chair, folded her arms, and asked him to explain.

He said:

"I need to be someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I cannot be a simple-minded man.

I need to be someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked. Believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster.

I need to be a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don't need a financial burden.

I need to be someone who is sensitive enough to understand what a woman go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep her grounded.

I need to be someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game playing are not my idea of a strong man.

I need to be a man who is family-oriented. The one who can be the leader and provider to the lives entrusted to me by God.

I need to be someone who respects his woman. In order to be the leader, I must earn her respect.

I cannot be a leader to a woman who does not respect me.

I have no problem respecting a woman, she just has to be worthy.

And by the way, I am not looking for her. She will find me. She will recognize herself in me. She may not be able to explain the connection, but she will always be drawn to me. God made man to be a leader for woman. I can't guide a woman if I can't guide myself."

When he finished his spill, he looked at her.

She sat there with a puzzled look on her face.

She said, "You expect a lot."

He replied, "I'm worth a lot."


Then he asked her, "Now, what kind of woman do you want to be?"


Dem yuh!

Hilang.

Seperti hujan hilang awan
Seperti hilang arah tujuan

Seperti irama hilang lagu
Seperti hilang suara merdu

Seperti tawa hilang riang
Seperti hilang bayang-bayang

Seperti malam hilang pengganti
Seperti hilang di siang hari

Seperti suria hilang cahaya
Seperti hilang bulan purnama

Seperti cinta hilang jiwa
Seperti hilang dipandangan mata

Seperti dunia hilang perisa
Seperti hilang di mata dunia

Seperti nyawa hilang hati
Seperti hilang kasih abadi

Semuanya indah
Dan semuanya hilang

Lu Siapa?

Buat baik berpada-pada
Jalan tegak mendabik dada
Ingatlah pada yang dah tiada
Suka kelak menjadi duka
Apa guna gila kuasa
Hidup biar terus usaha
Sarung baju segak bergaya
Makan minum kongsi sama
Bangun tidur sering berdua
Pergi kerja pandu kereta
Kejar mengejar di kotaraya
Berhenti diheret lori tunda
Kekanda adinda mengada-ngada
Harap jodoh jantan tua
Cari teman janda muda
Menanti jelingan anak dara
Hakikat manusia tidak sempurna
Hidup bukan selama-lama
Lu ingat lu siapa?


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DEM YUH!

Boys like girls.

All girls want:

✔A lap to sit on

✔A hand to hold

✔A shoulder to lean on

✔A partner to dance with

✔The perfect lips to kiss

✔A hand to wipe away the tears

✔A person to heal every pain, every scar

✔A person to vent to

✔A person to cry to

✔A knight in shining armor

✔A LOVE THAT NEVER FADES.



All guys want:

✔ A GIRL.



Dem yuh!

However, whoever, whatever.

Live your life however you want, but know one day you will die.
Love whoever you desire, but know one day you will split.
Do whatever you wish, but know one day you will be tried for every actions.

1010101010


Dem yuh!

Biangle

May be easy for some, surely not for many. Just accept the fact that we can't have a triangle.


Dem yuh!

Change.

I haven't been writing for quite some time. Don't know why, neither what has been running through my mind lately, nor why nothing has been running through my mind. Don't really care either.

I've been talking to many people about many things, sharing equal amount of agreements as well as arguments.

So far, none is interesting enough for me to write back, or worth commenting here, not that they were boring, most of the conversations were interesting but rather unmoving. It left no impact to what I'm going through now, my real situation. To me, it's like looking at a big, beautiful house. You can imagine how wonderful it would be if you actually own that house (in present dream or future) with so many things you can do or fill it up with, but you know you don't want to live there, you can't imagine yourself living there, because it's not you, it's not who you really are, it's not what you want to be.

Maybe because works have taken so much energy from me that every time before I fall to sleep, I keep thinking about the next day. I'm not complaining about it, frankly, it's what we should be doing. Really. Otherwise, what are we going to do everyday? Daydream? Work smart, not work hard? I don't believe that. Do what you are passionate about? I think 90% of people who I had conversation with, always telling me about their passion about certain things (please exclude 'sex' as one of the points in this conversation) but are doing something on the contrary.

Why is that?

Speaking of daydream, Shaq and I had our routine chit-chat at home this one night, and it was Merdeka Eve. So I told him to write something from the word "M E R D E K A", and so did I. After a few minutes, he said:

Most Extraordinary Ridiculous Daydream Ever Kills Action.

Word.

Everybody daydream. But can I daydream all the time? Will anything change if I daydream all the time? Will I get rich? Can a tall building possibly appear all of the sudden, if ten thousand people daydream about building the tall building, all at the same time? But if these ten thousands each help place one brick a day according to the construction plan, imagine what will happen in one year. Now that's action.

Change.

Everybody says change is so great, but what so great about change?

Here's my piece of mind:

Survival of the fittest is not about being fit; It is about being adaptable to CHANGE.

If President Barack Obama earned his presidency seat from his campaign "HOPE", I will earn mine with "CHANGE".

Well, unless if he steals mine after reading my blog.


Dem yuh!

Jalan singkat ke kubur.

"Dah siap ke belum? Nanti lambat sampai pula. Dah nak hujan ni."

Gua terhegeh-hegeh betulkan kain samping. Alah, raya ni. Mestilah nak segak lebih sikit. "Dah Papa. Tunggu si Boy tu saja. Dia yang lembab," gua seperti biasa kalau hal lembab memang ada mangsa tetap untuk disalahkan.

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Bangah memandu. Gua di kerusi co-pilot. Papa, Kangah, Kenit dan Boy di belakang. Memang macam sardin, nasib baik naik V6.

Mama tak ikut, masih sibuk memasak kat rumah. Kalau tidak seorang memang kena baring atas bumbung.

Boot belakang tak boleh buka, baru-baru ni ada penyamun cuba umpil, habis rosak lubang kunci. Nak repair macam bukan masa yang sesuai, maklumlah Raya dah dekat masa tu, duit dah habis tanggung benda-benda lain, kata Bangah masa gua sedang sibuk-sibuk nak letak barang-barang di belakang kereta. Memang penuhlah bawah kaki dengan beg, botol air, kasut, suratkhabar, macam-macam lagi. Sabar sajalah...

"Kita nak ikut jalan mana satu ni?" Bangah tanya.

"Mana-mana pun boleh. Biasa kita ikut NKVE. Tapi kalau ikut Guthrie terus sampai, ikut jalan belakang." Papa beri cadangan. "Cuma Guthrie tu kita tak biasa ikut, Papa ingat-ingat lupa jalan dia."

"Saya ingat rasanya Papa," kata Bangah.

"Okaylah kalau kau ingat. Ikut Guthrie lah."

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"Lu nak ikut Guthrie ke Bangah?" gua tanya nak confirmation.

"Ye lah kot."

"Kita nak masuk ikut mana?"

"Ikut Bukit Jelutong la kot. Ermm.." Bangah macam tak confident pula bunyinya.

"Kenapa tak ikut jalan biasa saja? Senang sikit rasanya. Tapi kalau lu nak ikut Guthrie pun takda hal. Cuma gua tak sure jalan tu. kalau lu on, gua on," gua seperti biasa lagi, tak kisah sangat.

"Hmm.. Gua takda hal kalau nak ikut NKVE, sama je kot. Guthrie dekat sikitlah rasanya, itu saja."

"Okaylah macam tu kita ikut Guthrie. Cepat sikit kita sampai kubur."


Terdiam.


Bangah pandang gua, "Lain macam lu punya ayat tu bro. Gua taknak 'cepat sampai kubur'."

Gua hampir tersedak bila gua flashback ayat gua tadi.

"Wow, that was really awkward," gua separuh tersengih. "Okaylah, kita ikut NKVE. Gua pun taknak 'cepat sangat sampai kubur'."

"Hahaha."

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Berhati-hatilah semasa memandu di jalan raya, terutamanya di musim perayaan seperti sekarang.

• Walaupun Ops Sikap tiap-tiap tahun dijalankan sebagai peringatan kepada pengguna-pengguna jalan raya yang rata-ratanya rela disaman daripada sampai lambat ke destinasi.
• Walaupun pengendali lebuhraya berbelanja besar meningkatkan mutu serta tahap keselamatan lebuhraya masing-masing walaupun ia bersifat sementara.
• Walaupun anda telah minum empat tin Red Bull yang berpotensi merosakkan hati dan buah pinggang serta sudah tidur 20 jam sebelum memulakan perjalanan.
• Walaupun memandu dengan mematuhi had laju serta undang-undang di jalan raya walaupun anda tidak tahu undang-undang jalan raya kerana memiliki lesen terbang.

Teori dia masih sama: makin sesak sesuatu tempat itu, makin tinggilah peluang sesuatu kecelakaan akan berlaku. Tak percaya? Cuba tengok protes jalanan, cuba tengok konsert mega. Sekarang, gandakan seratus (dianggarkan lebih 1.4 juta kenderaan sehar menggunakan lebuh raya di musim perayaan).

Lagipun semua orang dah kenyang makan lemang, makan rendang, makan lontong bagai, memanglah kebas satu badan.


Cilakak!

Nota kaki: Gua tak sampai hati nak letak gambar atau video orang kena langgar, sakit woo. Gua tau lah, gua pernah kena langgar.

Health, Wealth, and Stealth.

First and foremost, thank you to all, for the well wishes. As for me, I would like to toast to:

Health, Wealth, and Stealth.

Second, except for a few, I will kick your asses later.

Lastly, I have to hit the gym for the next few months, without fail.

Sunday, May 2, 2010

Monday, May 3, 2010

Tuesday, May 4, 2010











Dem yuh!

Unconquerable, undefeated.

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever God's may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll.
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

William Ernest Henley (1849 - 1903)

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The poem is called Invictus, a Latin word that means "unconquerable, undefeated". This is a poem where the President of South Africa, The Honorable Nelson "Madiba" Mandela held on to, for 27 years of imprisonment at Robben Island.

Actually I saw the film "Invictus" last night. It was directed by a man who needs no further introduction in the film industry, Clint Eastwood. The film is based by the book Playing the Enemy: Nelson Mandela and the Game That Changed a Nation by John Carlin.

This film is as inspirational as any inspiration could ever be. Gosh I can still feel the goosebumps, even greater than Barack Obama's Presidential Victory Speech in November 2008.

Please spare some time to watch this short documentary of Nelson Mandela during the 1995 Rugby World Cup in South Africa.

The documentary was narrated by Morgan Freeman, and he eventually landed the role of Madiba himself in the film. Matt Damon played the role of Francois Pienaar, the captain of South Africa 'Springboks' rugby team that won the historical 1995 Rugby World Cup.

This is a film where you see, and you start to think how patriotic you are for your country, for your people. We should take learn many lessons from this film, as this is a film we should all see, and let other people see too; our people, our country, our nation, our 1Malaysia.

I thank whatever God's may be
For my unconquerable soul.
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul...

I will definitely gonna watch this film over and over again.

Dem yuh!

It's a sad day.

Rest in PEACE,
Rest in POWER!

Komodo Ninja Hype Clan








Dem yuh!

Of loyalty.

"I've learnt the dignity of being loyal to something you believe in.
Of holding onto it, above all else.
Of believing, without questioning, that it will carry you home."
- Steve Lopez, from the film The Soloist


Dem yuh!

Of commitment - RELATIONSHIP 101 (Final Part)

This last part goes to everyone, especially myself.

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RELATIONSHIP 101 (DO's and DONT's)

DO:


Listen

I think this is by far the hardest to do.

Why?

Ego, that's why.

Have you heard of this saying, "You TASTE but you don't FEEL, you LOOK but you don't SEE, you HEAR but you don't LISTEN."

Even so often we are tripped by our own superego. Instead of using logical brain and reasoning, we failed to activate the Emotional Intelligence domain, and here comes the Defense Mechanism.


Talk

Who listens? Who talks?

Not only listening is a very hard thing to get used to, but talking is equally essential.

While listening we need to do some reasoning, talking needs to be done with a proper manner and to make sure the message is properly delivered (using the right words, intonation, facial expression etc.).

Communicate, people. There's a sender (talk), there's a receiver (listen), there's a message (content). Voilla! That's two-way communication.


Put/show a little bit more trust

There's a reason why I said "Put/show a little bit more trust." Let me tell ya, every time you have doubt (trust issue) to your partner, it's always a first bad intuition. Most of the times fights broke out because of distrust/doubt. And when you find out that your partner is right, you feel embarrassed and you refuse to say sorry. Then you fight again. Heh.

Next time just be a little bit more generous and kind, and put/show a little bit more trust to your partner. Don't treat them like they're your children. They're big enough, even if they break your trust, it's not your fault. You gave what they ask for, which is to trust them. At the end of the day you have nothing to lose and you still hold your integrity.


Give some space Let him/her take her own space

This is again a matter of being protective-cum-possessive.

First you protect, regardless you're the man or the woman (we protect each other in our own different ways) but here what happens when we stepped a bit too far. We become possessive. We assume that we have the rights to the other half. We think we possess them.

What?!

Look man, no one is belonged to anyone. Don't feel so powerful and think you own everything. Even I am belonged to only my Creator, my God.

Even to use "Give some space" is still inappropriate for me. I don't own the space. I shall change it to, "Let him/her take her own space." That makes more sense.


Commit GRADUALLY

Even I have a problem with this. I'm so affected by my career that every time I commit into a project/task/work/career, I will give 100%. I stay over the office, I get back late, I prepare, I put everything in to make sure the result is none other than a success.

Even I belief relationship is like a business venture, a partnership in a business. There will be arguments, excitements and all sorts, but instead of making it intense, make it fun.

How?

Commit gradually. Don't straight away commit to (for example) cook for your soon-to-be boyfriend every day and night, buy her flowers every dinner time, things like that. Do it step by step, so that you don't feel the pressure or pressured by your own actions.

More importantly, start commit more on the fundamentals (communication, trust, honesty, respect, dependability) rather than physical or monetary contributions. Build a solid foundation, then only you build the whole building and lastly, decorate it.


Patience

Two of the most difficult attributes to sustain are i) hardworking (or rajin) and, ii) patience (or bersabar).

I tell you, even if these two qualities are being used to other things (sports, entrepreneurial, arts, you name it) God knows where all of us can be by now.

Every time we feel like quitting, take a step (or few) back and look again. Don't always jump to the conclusion without rationalise your decision. No one's perfect. If you think you're being the only one dealing with patience-impatience issue, take it as a practice to buck up your emotional intelligence.

Patience is virtue, my young Padawan.


Appreciate the little things

I think I'm a champion for the League of Little Things in Relationship. I mean, the whole relationship, not my private parts. That's for you to find out anyway.

Tell me, is it not true that no matter how sweaty your boyfriend is after a futsal session, you still give him a hug. How about morning smooches before both of you even brush your teeth? Remember when you are in period pain and he had to go to the mart and buy you your pad? Or when he's so tired after a long day at work and you prepared some hot tea and biscuits, after an equally-tiring day, and then watch the News @ 8 together on the couch?

Shit man, I can write maybe a thousand things. I don't wish to start now. But I will. Because if that's what it takes for me to share to you, to help touch your hearts and for you to start appreciating the small things in your relationship, so God help me I will.

Don't care too much about the size of your contribution or efforts. Size only matters if you know how to use it. If you don't, just let it be as it is as long as it's manageable.


DON'T:


Don't be greedy

A natural child/kid character, when we want something, we want it NOW, and we want it ALL. Otherwise we'll cry, we'll protest, we'll sabotage, no?

Be grateful only because you are in a relationship, and you are being provided with emotional attention and care. Remember what mummy said when we were kids?

"Be nice, or you won't be getting anything, anymore, sweetheart."


Don't be selfish

I remember one of the comments from an anonymous reader to my post sometime ago,

"The world revolves around the SUN."

Yes living in this world, being competitive and all, we only want/wish the best for ourselves. But you're in a relationship, and a relationship is unwritten sacred agreement between two souls, therefore it needs balance.

It's only normal sometimes to get what you really want. You keep asking for this and that from your partner, and you don't care what he/she wants or needs, that's selfish.

You can order him to follow you doing your daily shopping, but you can't follow him to watch football match once a week? Don't let me start with on-the-bed issues.


Don't set too high expectation

Don't bullshit me and say you have no expectation in a relationship whatsoever. Of course you do. I do. But I don't set a high expectation towards my partner. I believe that I have more to give, than what I should be receiving.

Be realistic, people. If her height is average Asians, don't keep telling her that she has the potential to be like Gisele Bundchen if she stretch her legs 12 hours a day. Or telling him that he can be like Ludwig van Beethoven, what more Beethoven was deaf.

Just learn to accept your partner as who he/she is, and more importantly as who he/she IS NOT.


Don't overdo things

You can be romantic, sweet, needy, gentleman, whatever you wish but I suggest you don't overdo it.

Yes of course you love your partner and your relationship together, but just keep it simple on regular basis. After all, we love surprises don't we? But what happens when you keep getting surprises on a regular-basis? i) heart attack, and ii) cheese(y).

You know why it's called 'cheesy'? Because you like it once in a while, but if you have to eat it every day, it becomes cheesy. Same goes here.

Just because your boyfriend tells you you have a good voice, you sing to him all the way from Kuala Lumpur to Singapore. Read between the lines.


Don't be pushy

Everybody wants to get things done the way they want it regardless how it is done. You want your girlfriend to act like a lady yet you were never a gentleman. It's more than just some mere words.

What is the most important resources in life?

TIME.

So, let it flow, let your partner do it his/her own way (but you can monitor, not pushy), show a little more trust and hopefully there will be some progress to it. Let him/her have his/her own time.

Even if it doesn't turn out to be like how exactly you want it, you know for a fact that you both tried and you had fun. It's a relationship, not a stock market.


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I had fun writing this. I felt as though a hammer slammed on my head. It's like, "Haa... tau pun kau apa nak buat... Tak pernah nak sedar ke?"

Oke, I sedar sekarang.


Lastly, guys, WEAR THE PANTS.

And girls, WEAR A BRA.

None of you want to run around town without it, if you know what I mean.

To read my previous posts on "Of commitment" please click

HERE (Part 1)

HERE(Part 2)

Trust me, we all will make a difference.

Oh, here's a short cut.

Dem yuh!

Of commitment (Part 2)

Hello kids.

Where was I? Okay, I stopped at

to be continued...

Ha ha ha I made a joke. Okay, seriously, I stopped at

"...What should you do? What would you do? What could you do? What do you do?"


I am currently not quite in the good mood. I'm also stuck in the same fucking tail-chasing problem-solution mind-fucking situation. Heh.

See, the thing about me and my writing is that, I write what I think and what I feel, based on my natural resources - readings, observations, and most vital, experiences. The last one with a fucking big "S". I don't usually push myself to learn new things, I just let it happen. Easier that way.

My writing is never an answer nor a wisdom to any of your quest. It's just a story, mostly true, because everything must have a story otherwise there's nothing to tell, then there's nothing to be remembered.

To continue with the topic, I'll break it down for you.

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What would you do?

What would you do when things get sour, plain, bland and dull? Normally,

1. You would continue with your jerk attitudes. I'm sure it comes with a big "S" otherwise this will not happened. You don't really bother to at least look back at your own strengths and weaknesses. Brilliant.

2. You would start to look for some extra-curricular partner(s). Someone you can share your same ol shits with, only this time it's a different person, different flames, because you love the idea of escapism. Brilliant.

3. You would panic. You can't think straight, you tend to think emotionally, and eventually ACT emotionally. Brain doesn't play any role anymore to you. Brilliant.

4. You would start the blame game. Of course nothing is your fault. It's always has to be someone else. Brilliant.

5. You would again, not using your brain, and just call it off. Worse, over the phone (call, SMS) or more advance, through Internet (e-mail, Facebook, Twitter). Brilliant.


What could you do?

There are plenty things you could do to get it back on the track. For instance,

1. You could ask yourself, "What the fuck is wrong with me?" That's what you could do.

2. You could ask your partner, "What have I done wrong to you, and to this relationship?" And please LISTEN for God's sake!

3. You could start to stop being a jerk. Stop being so possessive, being so jealous, being so everything else.


What should you do?

I have to tell you, there's a lot you should do. I'll give some of my opinions,

1. You should start using BRAIN, more than your DICK. Ha ha ha kidding. I was gonna say feelings. Yes, I agree that love is a feeling, that's why you cannot trust it all the time, just like your dick. First listen to your heart, and then let your brain do the final filter and decide. This go to both of you.

2. You should LISTEN more to your partner. Hey, don't be a jackass and start to listen. I haven't told you to CHANGE, yet.

3. You should learn to unlearn. The first problem to all of us, men and women, is not to learn, but to unlearn. The hardest part about change is not to learn the new good habit, but to get rid of the old bad ones.

4. You should minimize the conflicts. If talking everyday gets you into quarrels, then minimize it. Same goes to other things.

5. You should play more active roles in your relationship. Little things matter. Have you ever heard of: Small things make perfection, but perfection is not a small thing.

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To be continued...


(Next - RELATIONSHIP 101)


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How (in)Significant We Are.

Check this link out:

How Significant We Are.

It's a blog written by MR.AZ @ Jason Mraz. What the hell were we thinking when we thought that we are so big, or powerful, or SIGNIFICANT? I say, how insignificant we are.

Like Jason himself quoted,

"Wake up to the WTF of it all and enjoy the ride."

If you are rich today, so be it. If you are not, so what? Same goes to everything else.

We live because of a higher purpose. We ought to seek what it is, so that we know what to do. We need to remember who we were, before we decide what we want to be.

Remember, at the end of the day, when you are at the corner of the hardest/worst/roughest situation(s), you have only YOURSELF to look after you. So why bother listen to what other people want you to do ALL THE TIME?

So do what you gotta do, and leave the rest to GOD.

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Of commitment (Part 1)

My uncle told me,

If you want to commit; be it relationship, personal pleasure, business, career - anything to do with committing yourself to somebody or something, you MUST consider these two things:

1. Whether or not you can IMPROVE yourself, and of course the other party

2. Whether or not, you can FINISH what you started

Often you THINK you want to commit towards something especially relationship, you THINK you can commit, and you THINK you know how-to. The temptation of having an intimate relationship; being close to somebody, use somebody, sharing thoughts and feelings is of course a very hard thing to resist.

After a while, things get plain, bland, dull, or even worse, sour. What you thought would IMPROVE gradually, proved otherwise. What you thought you can FINISH with rainbows and fireworks, took a complete turn.

What should you do? What would you do? What could you do? What do you do?


To be continued...


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Sometimes, it is all for the charity.

This is one of the things that we often overlooked. Charity.

Yes I know most of us think that we need to use our money mostly for our own use i.e pay the bills, eat, pay loans and buy shoes (just the way I like it).

This time, I am going to invite all of you to a very interesting charity event.

You can find out more about this charity event HERE, HERE and HERE. Trust me, it is going to be DOPE!

Sometimes, it is all for the charity.

Have a great weekend, and with all due respect, Selamat Hari Thaipusam to the Hindus.

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