Of commitment (Part 2)

Hello kids.

Where was I? Okay, I stopped at

to be continued...

Ha ha ha I made a joke. Okay, seriously, I stopped at

"...What should you do? What would you do? What could you do? What do you do?"


I am currently not quite in the good mood. I'm also stuck in the same fucking tail-chasing problem-solution mind-fucking situation. Heh.

See, the thing about me and my writing is that, I write what I think and what I feel, based on my natural resources - readings, observations, and most vital, experiences. The last one with a fucking big "S". I don't usually push myself to learn new things, I just let it happen. Easier that way.

My writing is never an answer nor a wisdom to any of your quest. It's just a story, mostly true, because everything must have a story otherwise there's nothing to tell, then there's nothing to be remembered.

To continue with the topic, I'll break it down for you.

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What would you do?

What would you do when things get sour, plain, bland and dull? Normally,

1. You would continue with your jerk attitudes. I'm sure it comes with a big "S" otherwise this will not happened. You don't really bother to at least look back at your own strengths and weaknesses. Brilliant.

2. You would start to look for some extra-curricular partner(s). Someone you can share your same ol shits with, only this time it's a different person, different flames, because you love the idea of escapism. Brilliant.

3. You would panic. You can't think straight, you tend to think emotionally, and eventually ACT emotionally. Brain doesn't play any role anymore to you. Brilliant.

4. You would start the blame game. Of course nothing is your fault. It's always has to be someone else. Brilliant.

5. You would again, not using your brain, and just call it off. Worse, over the phone (call, SMS) or more advance, through Internet (e-mail, Facebook, Twitter). Brilliant.


What could you do?

There are plenty things you could do to get it back on the track. For instance,

1. You could ask yourself, "What the fuck is wrong with me?" That's what you could do.

2. You could ask your partner, "What have I done wrong to you, and to this relationship?" And please LISTEN for God's sake!

3. You could start to stop being a jerk. Stop being so possessive, being so jealous, being so everything else.


What should you do?

I have to tell you, there's a lot you should do. I'll give some of my opinions,

1. You should start using BRAIN, more than your DICK. Ha ha ha kidding. I was gonna say feelings. Yes, I agree that love is a feeling, that's why you cannot trust it all the time, just like your dick. First listen to your heart, and then let your brain do the final filter and decide. This go to both of you.

2. You should LISTEN more to your partner. Hey, don't be a jackass and start to listen. I haven't told you to CHANGE, yet.

3. You should learn to unlearn. The first problem to all of us, men and women, is not to learn, but to unlearn. The hardest part about change is not to learn the new good habit, but to get rid of the old bad ones.

4. You should minimize the conflicts. If talking everyday gets you into quarrels, then minimize it. Same goes to other things.

5. You should play more active roles in your relationship. Little things matter. Have you ever heard of: Small things make perfection, but perfection is not a small thing.

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To be continued...


(Next - RELATIONSHIP 101)


Dem yuh!