Saturday, October 31, 2009


In a few of my entries regarding life, love, girls and relationship, I wrote about why girls do this to us men, why did they turned us down, why did this and why did that. It's so unfair, isn't it? Why it's always us men that need to be turned down? Don't we all deserved to be treated the same way women get?


Who says it's not?

Now, I sound like a real jerk. It's alright. I get this a lot. In fact, I received few comments whenever it comes to relationship kinda topics. People love drama. I don't, to be honest but I love to watch human, how they react, what they think, how they respond. I love to study HUMAN BEHAVIOR, which includes A LOT of DRAMA. It's fun nevertheless.

Okay, where were we? Oh, about life is unfair to most of us men. Yeah, we were turned down, knocked down, shot off, and many more frustrating and pointing-the-other-party remarks. It's fine, don't worry. There's nothing wrong with that either. But what we need is a little bit of a tuning, tweaking.

Take this one analogy.

We all have a car, for example. Different models, but all standard. Different model means what our parents gave us equals to our up-bringing. Some people get a small, cheap car while some gets the opposite; shiny, vulgar, fast car.

So what we can do and yes we can, because it's our lives and we live for it is that, to learn and change your belief system. You need to transform. (Don't let me start on the lame Transformers jokes)

By learning and changing, you will begin to live in a realm where things are possible.

Stop asking or whining about why women turned you down. About why they never seem to give you a chance to make your point to them. Stop whining about you giving her all the attentions and gifts and not getting where you wanted to be with her. Keep this at the back of your mind, "Am I doing this to impress her or am I doing so in sincerity because I genuinely care?"

Step One: Stop kissing ass to impress women.
The kind words said by you, or the kind action taken by you will be appreciated if you do it genuinely, not to kiss ass. Women will appreciate it because they know you did not have to do it, but that you chose to do it.

Step Two: Commit to living your life to the fullest.
Your actions and behavior reflects that. Women are no longer number one priority in your life. You convey that they are not the most important things in your life because you have high self-worth and you are not bending backwards for people you have barely known. (But if you are already in a relationship, it's generally a good idea to let your woman know that she is important. However, this entry is not about relationships. It's about approaching women and dating them.)

Yes, only two steps, for now. One brick a day.

So, in this phase, you are a person passionate to live life and determined in what you want; women come secondary to that. You live life instead of being bound by ridiculous social rules every step of the way. You can live with integrity and honor and yet lead a powerful reality. Remember, just because it's a majority, doesn't mean it's right. It's only popular, and nothing else.

So, how will you make women feel after the transformation?

  • They will know that you'll show them a better time than average guys.
  • They will feel incredible when you do pay attention to them. The little things matter so much more now.
  • Since you love your live and aren't bound by rules of society, they will want to let loose with you.
  • You have energy and excitement and they will want to know what's next!
  • Because you live your own life, you are always a challenge, and they will find it difficult to resist a challenge.
  • They cannot quite figure out what you are up to.
  • You will bring passion and energy into their sometimes boring, structured mundane lifestyle. They cannot resist the appeal.
  • They know that if there is a disagreement, you will stand your ground. You are not a pussy and they respect you for it.
  • They will feel validated because they are able to get a guy like you. They know that you can get other women, so it's special that you chose them.
  • You are not insecure. You are comfortable in your own skin and you do not care what others think. That is appealing.
  • You are strong-willed and when the time is right, sexually aggressive. This also brings out their sexual side as well.
  • They feel the freedom to be sexual with you because they know they don't have to pretend to be some born again virgin. With you, they also can be free.
  • Since carry on as if women aren't the most important things to you, they will make the extra effort to matter.
  • Since you do not live by society rules, they will feel liberated hanging around you.
  • They will feel like they can show their sexual "Naughty" side and you won't judge them for it. In fact, you appreciate the fact that they can express their sexuality.

Remember, your perspective or frame will be, "I know what I want and I know who I like. Right now, I like you and I want to see you again."

You will give them the gift of you.

Dem yuh!

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